Trials are not enemies of faith but are opportunities to prove
God's faithfulness. -- Author Unknown

God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one
to say 'thank you?' -- William A. Ward

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Parenting

Watch this video.

I just watched this video. I'm disturbed by its content as well as by the sentiment. I just don't know what people are thinking. Within our country there is this huge sense of entitlement. But to think that every minute of your life is going to be pure JOY and HAPPINESS. That I don't get. I know that the hardest times in my life make me a stronger person, a more compassionate person, sometimes a completely different (and better) person. If I had never struggled, then I wouldn't have ever experience complete joy. Our 2 adoptions, the hardest period of waiting, have made me a much better person. I've learned patience (10 times over). I've learned to pray. I've learned to lean on God. I've also learned who my real friends are. Homeschooling my kids is an experience that also challenges me. In starting, I've had many times where I've been stretched. I'm a much better parent now than I was 4 years ago. I feel like me and Anthony are so much closer too.
I don't understand how the people in this story came up with the information that parenting often times has little positive, often a negative, impact of a married persons life. WHAT!!!!!!!???? Patrick and I would not know what to do without our kids. We would not have as much joy and happiness and satisfaction. Most of the things we would do without our kids are things that God could care less about. I mean really. How helpful for the kingdom of God is it to travel (on cushy vacations) or to eat at extravagant restaurants? Would we serve others more if we didn't have kid? Probably not. Our kids are what drive me to serve. I want the world to be a better place for my kids. Also, by investing my time, money, and blood sweat and tears into my kids, I'm serving the world. I'm raising a bunch of servants, not for me bu for the kingdom of God. I'm raising kids that not only want mom and dad to be proud, but want for their true Father, the Lord of Lords and King of Kings to be proud of their works. I'm trying to raise the next generation of leaders. A generation of Followers of Christ.
Is there anything better I could be doing with my time? Nope. This is the most important job. My kids are my legacy and my pride. I can't think of anything better to do with my time. But then again there is 1 behavior that I model and promote in our house. I don't want my kids to look to themselves ever for what will best for them. I want my kids to first look up and ask God and then look around and see what needs done. What does their family need from them, what do their neighbors need from them, what does the world need from them? What use of their time will bring joy to God? I don't try to make every moment a teachable moment. I do what I want my kids to do. I model a life of living for Christ. Our house is not child centered. Our house is God centered.
Maybe that is how the world is going wrong. I think it is an injustice to raise your kids giving them everything. I think you should be showing them what other people need. No wonder mom's want more ME-time. They spend all their time in Bobby and Suzy time. If a parent is spending all their time glorifying their child then when do they have time to glorify God?
I'm praying for our country. I'm praying that people of my generation will begin to see the blessing of children. I'm praying for children to be raised to see farther than themselves. I'm praying for more people to spend their time wisely because you only get one life. When its gone all that left are memories and without kids, who will remember you? Have you lived your life so that God will notice? Its not a competition but I'd sure love for Jesus to be proud of my actions today, no matter how big or small.

2 comments:

Peter and Nancy said...

I wish I could remember who said this, but a few years ago I read an interview with an actor who said is children "saved him from a life of terminal self-involvement." I love that! It's so true.
Nancy

cali said...

If you're looking for a good movie for the kids, the 2010 remake of Jack and the Beanstalk is a great one that demonstrates good values and morals. I watched it with my son and we both LOVED it. Become a fan of the Jack and the Beanstalk facebook page and you can watch the trailer and read about the cast, plus get ideas for fun family activities - http://www.facebook.com/pages/Jack-and-the-Beanstalk/109969562361625