(One of 4 family photos taken with the automatic timer because we didn't have anyone to ask to take them for us.)
Adoption is hard. Like child birth hard. You never know what is going to be asked of you next. You have to depend on complete strangers to approve your family. You have to wait. You have to trust a complete stranger to make sure your child is healthy, not hurting or sick. You have to wait. You have to pray that laws won't change once you've seen that precious face and you are stuck apart forever.
Adoption is expensive. Like college expensive. Its worth it but really how much disposable income can one family have. Other people missing deadlines and it cost you more money. It nerve-racking. Then the car breaks down, you need new tires, something will go wrong.
Your family starts to live in a glass box. You always stand out. Its called being conspicuous. People start asking if your kids are really brothers and sisters. They ask what happen to their parents, like you aren't their mom. Rude questions. Why are they so short? Why are they so tiny? "Oh, they are so lucky to have you."
Many times adoptive families need someone to just treat them like normal people. Many adoptive families need help raising money. Many times families just need a note saying that you care.
Adoption is hard.
Adoptive families need emotional support and financial support. It makes a huge difference in our life.